Is it okay for married men to gawk at women in front of their wives? Most men would say it's perfectly fine, that it's a 'man' thing to do and would raise self-esteem issues of the beleaguered wife or that she isn't sure of her husband and so on and so forth.

The truth of the matter, however, is that these very same men wouldn't stare at other females when they are out with women they are dating if they have some sort of future plans in mind, knowing if they behaved like repressed teenagers the women would be out of their lives before they could finish say Jack Robinson. Yet, once married, the wolves discard the sheep's clothing and resume drooling and frothing, expecting their partners to take it in stride.

An old gentleman once told me that this sort of behavior is in the genes of men and he talked about society shackling men with an artificial institution called marriage, that men by their very primal nature are bigamists and women should understand that gawking is perfectly natural and we should rise above these petty issues and let them be since that is all that modern society allows them to do.

He compared a woman to a car. According to him, a man could spend hours admiring a BMW or a Porsche, but he would never give up his Ford for these novelty cars.

My answer to this eighty year-old gentleman just stopped short of showing him my middle finger. How dare he compare a woman to a car? I reined in my temper and asked why wouldn't he trade in his dinky, run down Ford for a Porsche? Would it have something to do with the mileage issue? Or for that matter may be he knows that he could never afford to pay for a high-end car much less maintain it?

The old gentleman accused me of nearing my chums or having PMS.

It was then that realization dawned, I had hit the nail on the head. Most men know that they can't afford high maintenance women nor do they want to spend the rest of their lives peddling their souls just to keep these spoilt kittens happy.

They would rather marry the down to earth, family oriented, faithful average gal with the heart of gold.

Does that mean that a guy would be perfectly content with his battered Ford? I think not. A Porsche is a Porsche - the dream of every man - and a car being an inanimate object has no feelings, trading it in therefore would cause no more than a twinge and hopefully men, like us, feel devastated when a relationship hits the rocks.

Thus comparing a woman to a car is not only insulting and demeaning but downright stupid.

Married men generally lead 'happy' suburban lives with their kids, wives and dogs dreaming of hot babes and lost bachelor days when they could have had it all.

Right! Men need a wake-up call. They cannot butter both sides of their bread. Wanting a nice wife to replace their mothers, to nourish them, kiss their boo-boos, have their kids while they dream and leach at other women and tell their partners it's you that I want, it's you I am returning home to, so what are you hee-hawing about?

Wow! We women should feel so honored. The maharaja doesn't want a harem; he wants only me. That thought would surely make any woman's day (smirk)!

It's time women stopped putting up with this sort of behavior. It is because of our pride and indulgence that they have gotten away with acting like boys. It's time we threw them into the doghouse for taking us for granted.

Time to say no to sex the night he takes you out to dinner and leers at a woman sitting at a nearby table, time to leave him dripping by the pool minus his towel and clothes when he spends time staring a goddess in a bikini and time to throw him out of the car when he misses a traffic light staring at a hot pedestrian.

We aren't asking for a lot. We are not telling you to stop feeling your dying, held-back oats or to put blinders next to your eyes. Merely to be wise enough to keep your dick zipped in and tongue rolled in your mouth while you are out with your wives.

After all a Ford that has an unstable gasket is not one you wanna drive, especially when it is all you can afford.