A man's heart may be through his stomach but in all likelihood it would kill his libido. A recent article in Forbes discusses the effect food has on sexual appetite, the means of improving one's sex life vis-a-vis a good balanced diet, exercising, trying out new sex products in the market ( though studies have shown them to have mere placebo effect in general) and in case of grave sexual dysfunction go to a therapist which obviously means really speaking sex begins in the mind.

Which brings me to a romantic movie, The OH in Ohio, which isn't a chick flick and deserves to be watched by all sexually active adults.The central theme of the movie is frigidity which holds the heroine back not only in bed but in her day to day living as well.

The movie is fast paced and amusing. Set in Cleveland amidst a couple actively pursuing the American Dream, it provides a glimpse of middle-class life with all it's joys and viscissitudes. Priscilla is at the top of her career and has an outwardly successful life and happy marriage, having been married for ten years. She suffers from a sexual dysfunction, however, namely, the inability to achieve orgasm. After visiting a therapist with her disgruntled husband Priscilla discovers the joys of a vibrator alone and inevitably loses her husband to a younger woman. Despite being able to achieve multiple orgasms using the vibrator she realizes the need for a living partner and her hunt leads her to the swimming pool constructor (Danny De Vito) who makes up for his physical shortcomings with a quirky yet mature personality and because of it gets to keep the girl in the end.

There are numerous layers to the movie which hold true to life. For example if the plumbing down below is in a good enough condition then the clogging inevitably is at the source which is the mind is generally an accepted fact. Even today for many women sex continues to be a dirty word, a duty to be fulfilled grudgingly or feel awkward when it comes to feelings of sexual inadequacy which is a problem common to men and women alike.

A sex survey conducted by Outlook Magazine in India reached the following conclusion - "Virginity, commitment-phobia, pornography and reluctance towards oral sex still dominate women's sexual confessions about men. But what's undeniably changing is the belief of both sexes in the equality of the new, emerging equations."

Exploring one's sexuality is still considered a taboo in most societies. In her exploration Priscilla tries lesbianism but comes to the conclusion that despite bedding numerous people the spark continued to elude her as she was unable give in to the moment and let herself go when the little death took hold of her.

Therein lies the central theme of the movie - We are at our most vulnerable at that last orgasmic moment. Stripped of the civilized veneer we become one with the universe, when the words, 'Was it as good for you as for me' no longer sound corny and most importantly we are on the same mental level with our partners as was Priscilla with Wayne the Pool guy when she experienced her first orgasm.