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February 26, 2009

Women Assaulted In Bangalore For Wearing Jeans

Miscreants are targeting women in jeans in Bangalore. Hard to believe, isn't it?
The women were hounded, assaulted and threatened for being in 'Western attire'. What is happening in Bangalore? After being perceptually on my guard in Delhi- a city best known for its crimes against women I find Bangalore too heading down the same dangerous route.

A few weeks ago a group of women and men had been badly injured by a group of thugs at a pub and the night shift police allegedly tried to hush the matter up. The incident made news and then the matter easily slipped the mind of laidback Bangaloreans.

But the bully is still out there trying its best to subjugate the Bangalore spirit of -live and let live.

Is it time we civilians began to bear arms? The gun culture has never been part of the urban Indian society but more and more people are now wondering how they can best protect themselves against these miscreants.

Those against the gun culture are quick to say that more accidents and crimes of passion are caused by gun possession than actual self defense but I ask how do we protect ourselves when these thugs ambush us and even if they are caught the law enforcement watches from the sidelines and worse still turns on us?

Two out of the three victims of these hate crimes have registered complaints against the men who assaulted them. The police should take caricatures of the thugs out in public, our chief minister (highly unlikely) should offer harsh condemnation of the acts and we women should have some form of protest put up as quickly as possible against this sort of bullying by impotent thugs.

Here are a couple of safety tips that women should follow:
• Do not roll down your car window even if someone asks for direction.
• Always keep your car doors locked.
• Always keep your cell phone charged.
• If you are being chased while in a car try to remain in a crowded area and keep a look out for police.
• Avoid lonely roads and parking lots, listen to your instincts.
• If someone grabs you scream your head off
• Try getting a pepper spray
• Learn basic self defense techniques
• Always be aggressive. Bullies generally lay off bullies. A vulnerable looking woman is an easy prey.

These thugs are obviously individuals who have taken inspiration from the Mangalore goings-on. This has nothing to do with religion but a nasty chauvinistic mind set that is intimidated by emancipated women. This is not the time to give in to cynicism or indifference. We have to voice our protest.

The power of public outrage is the best defense against hooliganism. Speak up and be heard!

February 22, 2009

Kensei, Our Dirty Cat

If you talk to any breeder they will tell you the same thing - Never pick up an animal from a pet shop. You never know what kind of disease they may be carrying.

Well, we picked up Kensei from a pet shop; better still we rescued a sick 4 month old kitten knowing he was sick. He was an affectionate little mutt and snuggled up easy in the crook of the arm but was a bag of bones. Our hearts became puddle and we took him home.


2319406124_0819d0d278.jpgWe nearly lost him. The poor guy had a weak constitution. He couldn't keep anything down. His litter tray was changed every hour and in the end even though Zoey out of pity accepted him he was isolated in another room with his litter tray.

The image of him unable to get up from his dirty litter tray is still engraved in my mind. We managed to pull him away from death.

But Kensei's constitution, however, never recovered. Any deviation from his meal and it would be stink time all over again.

On 14th of February early morning I heard the newspaper on which the litter was laid ruffle. Zoey was sleeping next to me and I knew Kensei was up to no good.

The sound of paper cackling went on for over five minutes. I groaned and buried my head in the pillow. I knew what had happened. He was trying to bury the crime but couldn't. The floor did not have litter on it! He had missed the litter tray again.

I walked out screaming- Kensei, you naughty cat! Its such a big tray! How can you miss it?

He stood still in his tray with one paw raised. He meowed as if to say- Good morning mama and I was too mad to think- oh, you look so handsome despite the crap you have left again for me.

And, yes, he had pooped right between the two litter trays!

He hopped off the tray, rubbed himself against my legs asking to be picked up and cuddled and I imagined kicking the cat to Timbuktu!

Zoey came out of the bedroom meowing her good morning and headed straight for the litter and I thought -oh! there will be two poops to pick up.

I grabbed the cats and locked them in the backyard. They both gave an indignant meow! Out without food!

I grabbed newspapers, Lysol, Dettol, face mask, hand gloves, a bucket, coconut broom, yanked up my nightwear and got to work.

It took me over forty five minutes to clean his mess, get fresh litter and scrub my hands clean in piping hot water.

I then let the cats in to eat. Ten minutes later I could hear the crackle of the paper again. And I groaned. I screamed- Kensei!!

The paper crackled louder, more rigorous. I hit my head against the couch. The crackling stopped, he sauntered into the living room, jumped up on the couch and snuggled up against me.

I told him he was lucky I didn't kick him to Timbuktu, lucky I preferred to clean up after him and not send him back to the damn pet shop and he sure was lucky that I saved his life.

He meowed, turned on his back, showed me his belly and went to sleep and I wondered if I would yet again have to clean his litter tray.

February 16, 2009

Who Lives In The Pineapple Under The Sea?

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February 13, 2009

Valentine's Day: Love Expressed On Desicritics

Valentine's Day is close by and we are already swimming in pink undies, pink sarees, listening to passionate calls for and against the celebrations but what is going unheard is the silent love that beats deep within our hearts. No matter how cliched it may sound Love deserves to be aired out like fresh sheets in sunny breeze and we'd run through our memories and those expressed by others like children enjoying nothing more than the carefree moment lived and forgotten within the darkened recesses of our hearts.

Love makes us pause and smell the roses, enjoy the caress or maybe for once realize that we have much to be grateful for no matter how hard life may get. Love heals wounds, love gives hope and more than anything love makes us want to be better than we are.hug.jpg

Its all about love and its being painted pink. Pink is not the color of love. Its rich red like the blood flowing in our veins. It lives within us and flows through a touch, a glance or a word. Express what deserves to be aired. Anger and hatred cloud our horizon but love barely scratches the grime reality we live.

Its time to express what makes us human and its called Love.

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February 09, 2009

Kitty Sympathy

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Fiction: Twists Of Love

He shifted on the bar stool and looked towards the main door. His eyes met hers. She wasn't the one he was waiting for. Part of him registered that she was attractive. She was curvy, with pretty eyes, wavy hair. She wore a black top with a plunging neckline along with black trousers.

The steward spoke to her and took her to a table. His eyes went back to the door. Where was she? He had been waiting for over fifteen minutes. He looked at his watch once more and then at the door. He fidgeted, turned back to take a sip of his whiskey sour and again trained his eyes on the door. He knew he was acting like a twenty year old and less like the thirty five year old man that he was.

She had finally agreed to go out with him as a date and not as a friend. He had watched her go through disappointments and heartbreaks for over five years and kept his love under wraps. She never saw him as anything more than a buddy. For her there was no chemistry between them but last night she asked if he wanted to be her date? She wondered out loud that maybe they were like old married couples and maybe she had been a fool not to see what they had.

He smiled and agreed, maybe they did have something. He gave a restrained smile. He wasn't going to lay it all out in the open. Not yet. He had his dignity and he was, after all, not a twenty year old.

But his heart was very much that of a twenty year old's. He hated himself for the eagerness he felt in his heart as he waited for her. His drink finished and he ordered another. Time was ticking by where was she?

At the table the lady in the black top and trousers played with the cutlery set next to her plate. Where was he? Was he going to make it? She looked at the door and then at her watch. She was a fool to believe him. Her eyes wondered around and she saw people laughing, drinking and eating. Feelings of loneliness washed over her and despondency came over. The tiny voice that insisted her he wasn't coming grew louder. He had stood her up, again.

He ordered another drink. It was his third whiskey sour. His stomach grumbled with hunger and he ate a few peanuts. His eyes wandered around the room and he saw the lady in the black top also sitting alone. It was close to an hour since she had walked in. Maybe they both had been stood up.

Their eyes met and they looked away. Indians didn't acknowledge strangers. Where was she? Had she changed her mind? A sense of forbidding came over him; maybe she had gone back to her last boyfriend. The devil in him twisted the knife deeper. Maybe she was in his apartment, lying in his bed, loving him, whispering sweet nothings in his ears, maybe she had forgotten all about the friend she had stood up. He gulped down his drink and ordered his fourth whiskey sour.

She drummed her fingers on the table and then looked at the alcohol menu and ordered whiskey on the rocks. He was late but he had always been late. She wasn't going to lose her temper. The guy at the bar also seemed alone. At least she wasn't the only one waiting for someone in the pub. He was a nice enough fellow. Easy on the eyes, actually. Her mind reverted back to her husband of ten years who couldn't keep his pants up when it came to pretty women. She wondered why she was a glutton for punishment. She was a fool.

Her drink came and in anger she gulped it down. Gritted her teeth when it hit her gut hard and asked the waiter for another. She crossed her arms and sat back against the chair and began to brood. The waiter returned with her drink . He whispered that the gentleman on the other table sent her a drink. She looked to her right and saw two twenty-somethings smile at her. They looked decent enough. One of them raised his glass at her. He was more than easy on the eyes. He was hot! He was a Shahrukh Khan look alike. She raised her glass and took a sip. He came over to the table.

Sitting on the hard stool he wondered whether on his fourth or fifth drink? He wasn't sure but one thing he was sure about- he had been officially stood up by the woman he had waited for what seemed to be most of his wasted life! But he looked at the door hopefully. It opened and a couple walked in. Disappointment punched his gut. He cursed himself and ordered his fifth; yes, it was his fifth. 

The bartender raised her eyebrows. He glared at her. She smiled at him. They started talking. He was tipsy and his mind became hazy. He couldn't remember her face anymore. He concentrated his swaying senses on the bartender. She made him laugh. He ordered another, she told him to go easy on the drinks and he replied only if she would go easy on him. She showed him her pearly whites and he felt a balm on his soul.

The lady in black smiled when the good looking twenty something asked if she wanted to go to the nearby nightclub with him. She didn't let herself think about the risks and agreed. She wasn't a wet blanket; she too could have fun. She finished her third drink, got to her feet and swayed a bit. He grabbed her elbow to steady her and before he helped her out of the restaurant he nodded at his friend who raised his glass to him- Jackpot! He had a date.

The bartender gave him his sixth whiskey sour and lightly said if he would stop drinking she would take him up to her apartment for coffee; her shift was over. He smiled, pushed his drink to the side, inclined his head at her and gave her a devilish smile. She blinked. She wanted him. She gestured towards the door and they went out of the restaurant towards the stairs. Her apartment was on the first floor.

Something was wrong. She felt her world whirl around her, the nightclub would have to wait. Drinking on an empty stomach was never good. She bent over and threw up right on the porch of the restaurant and her black trousers got splattered. Humiliation, embarrassment and stomach ache made her groan out load.

As he was walking out with the bartender, he saw the lady in black throw up a few yards away from him. The lady in black was drunk. The bartender went up to the lady and asked if she wanted a taxi. She declined and asked her young companion to take her home. Her companion looked uncomfortable but felt he couldn't leave a drunk woman to fend for herself and agreed to drop her home. Taxis weren't safe.

The bartender returned and put her arm through his and took him to her rooms.

She, on the other hand, was carefully bundled into a Scorpio and she mumbled her address. Later, she didn't resist the helping hand towards her door and then her room.

Morning came in it's sunny glory. They both blinked and groaned. He was in the unfamiliar apartment and she was in her own bedroom. Memories of the sex escapades spilled forth.But hangover warded off the shock.

She stumbled into her bathroom and looked for the Ipill kept behind the mirror. She wondered if that kid had used a condom.

He sat up and grabbed his head. This was his first one night stand in his thirty five years of life . Did he use a condom? he wondered. He didn't carry one; he wasn't expecting to get lucky. The woman on the bed snored loudly and he stifled the next groan.

Her cell phone rang.

His cell phone rang.

They both groaned as their partners continued to slumber peacefully. 

She wrapped herself in a robe and gingerly walked into the living room, side stepping the clothes left strewn around. Her black bra lying on the floor made her cringe and she closed a tight fist against the little butterfly encrusted Ipill.

He grabbed his trousers lying next to the cheap bedpost and pulled the cellphone out.

They answered their phones in a whisper

"Hello?"

His deep baritone in her ear made her close her eyes in pain. She tried to remind herself that he had hurt her all over again. She promised herself that she'd be strong for once and not given in.

"Sweetheart! There was a big jam on Brigade Road and the Airtel lines were jammed. I couldn't get through. I was so worried. Have I blown my chances with you? Sweet heart I am so sorry. I love you. I don't want to lose you. Can I come over? Please honey. Give me a chance? Give our marriage a chance? "

He went on pleading .

She stared at the Ipill in her palm and replied "No, I'll come over at lunch time. We'll talk then" She closed her cellphone and went into the kitchen to have her pill with water.

He remained quiet as his friend of five years gave him an explanation. 

"Babes! I made up with him. We are fine now. I tried to call you but the lines were jammed. I know you will be happy for me......"

She went on speaking but he stopped paying attention to the flighty chatter. His eyes were on the bare chested woman who lay on her back and smiled up at him. He smiled back at her. His twenty year old heart did a little skip. Being with her seemed right.

She held her arms open and as he lay down with her he whispered "Happy Valentine 's Day." 


     

 

February 07, 2009

How To Please Your Wife On Valentine's Day Despite The Recession

Do I have the husbands' ears? If your marriage is the romantic kind where gifting giving is the norm and you happen to be on your wit's end about the dreaded Valentine Gift let me help you out.

You needn't spend too much money, really! Recession has caused us all to tighten our purse strings or made our wallets slimmer. You don't have to buy her diamonds, gold, not even a single stemmed rose and yet she will be thrilled by your gift.

Here are some ideas that you can mull over and take it from a woman these are bound to make your better half teary-eyed.

Morning Tea and Breakfast : Give her tea and breakfast in bed. Use your best cutlery. And no the breakfast needn't be elaborate. Toast, eggs and juice followed by coffee or tea are good enough. Women love being taken care of early in the morning.

Take Care Of The Kids: Give them breakfast as well. If you don't have help and they are tots then bath them as well. Help them do their home work and let her read the papers while you act mommy.

Take The Family For A Picnic: Pack a hamper and grab a blanket. While the kids run around talk to your wife. I mean really talk to her, entertain her like you did when you were going around or engaged.

Massage: Massages don't always lead to sex. Listen to me again - touching the flesh doesn't always lead to sex. Many a times it shows you care. Grab her feet and massage them. She would love you for it. Rub her back, run your fingers through her hair and listen to her sigh and purr like a contented cat.

Make Sure The House Is Clean: A shabby house is a romance killer. Don't let her do a thing around the house on that day. Not even dusting! Do the chores, wash the dishes, supervise the help and take care of the family.

Write Her A Love Letter: No! I am not letting you off! You can do it. Tear a page from your kid's note book and write to her why she is important to you. The letter need not be poetic. Simple words make the maximum impact. You don't even have to buy her a card. Just remind her how you feel about her.

Dance With Her : Once the kids are asleep switch off the television, put on some slow music and dance with her. Hold her close and shift your weight from one foot to another and that is close enough to good dancing. Women love cuddling and this happens to be one of the best ways to make them feel special.

Last but not the least, before you close your eyes for the night tell her she is the best Valentine's gift that ever happened to you.

The next day she is bound to be the envy of all her girlfriends.

February 06, 2009

The Desicritics Valentine's Day Contest - Celebrating Love

We have our conservative brethren to thank. Never has Valentine's Day been as important to us Indians as when we were told love was a Western imposition. This week till the sixteenth of February, Desicritics will celebrate the spirit of St. Valentine who gave his life to protect the right to love. We will celebrate love in all its shades. 351px-Cupid_with_a_Butterfly-LAmour_au_papillon.jpg

We invite authors to take part in the Valentine's Day Celebration Contest. There are a few basic rules:

1. All authors are welcome to participate - if you're not yet an author, mail us to sign up.

2. You may enter the challenge at any time before midnight, Eastern Time Zone (UTC-5:00), on February 16th, 2009. Your post should be in pending by then.

3. Posts should be about or relate to love in its many forms - so get creative.

4. Your articles can be of any type - fiction, opinion, memoirs, photo-essays, reviews, recipes, etc. Posts must be new and original, of course, and first published to Desicritics.

5. You are allowed any number of entries, but only one will be eligible for the prize - i.e. you can't get both prizes.

Editors and other members of Desicritics management are welcome to participate on a non-competitive basis.
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Prizes: Online book coupons for Rs. 1000/- and Rs. 500/-, or equivalent to the two winning entries, as decided by a panel of judges to be announced shortly.

February 05, 2009

Fiction : Happy Divine Day

"Happy Divine Day!"

"Eh? Whats that?" Sharmila tittered at her air headed friend.

"Oh! its when we pledge that our love will be as infused and divine that like of Vishnu and Lakshmi or like Shiva's and Parvati's or even Ram's and Sita's."

1155ShivaParvati.jpg"Not like Rati and what's his name? Kamadeva! How could I forget." Sharmila shook her head at her sudden amnesia

"No!" Aradhana looked around to make sure no one in the Archies store heard them. "Where have you been? Don't you read the news? Its no longer Valentine's Day. We call it Divine Day to avoid Ram Sena."

"Huh? Since when did this happen?" Sharmila looked bewildered

"About nine days ago when Pramod Mutalik said he will stop valentine celebrations from happening in Bangalore. You really have been hibernating!"

"Er, no not really. I never did have a boyfriend. All this is immaterial to me." Sharmila shrugged.  She browsed through the cards then gasped.

She held out a card with a religious picture of Shiva and Parvati on it with a big heart behind them.

"Is this what you are talking about?"

Aradhana opened the card and read the message "May our love be as pure and divine like that of heavenly beings."

"Yes, and I think I will give this card to Nikhil my fiance. "

"Fiance? When did this happen? I thought you guys were just going around. How could you hold such a big news from me. You two are most important people in my life and --"

Aradhana grabbed Sharmila 's elbow and pulled her to the cash counter and spoke in a hushed tone " Be quiet! They have police here in plain clothes. They will follow me back to the food court and arrest Nikhil and me"

She smiled and paid for the card and yanked her friend away from the crowded shop.

"Lets talk in the car!"

"In the car? Aradhana I know its been a while since we met. I was busy studying and didn't pay attention to the news and all but I do think you are acting crazy!"

"Sharmila don't be stubborn; come with me. Nikhil can wait for another ten minutes. I can't have him sit with us in the car. That can get us into trouble."

Sharmila shook her head and let her friend drag her out to the parking lot and into the car.

While Aradhana SMSed her 'fiance' Sharmila looked at the crowd moving into the mall. Mixed groups of boys and girls moved in and out of the malls. But there was something very peculiar, apart from older couples who were obviously married she saw very few college going couples around.

Aradhana put the cellphone back in her purse and looked out of the windshield.

"Its become very bad. We fear that they may drag us out on the roads and beat us up. The cops do nothing, the politicians are hand in glove with this whole mess. We have no where to turn."

Sharmila took Aradhana's hand and tried to comfort her "This will all blow over. You'll see. "

Aradhana yanked her hand back and hit the steering wheel hard "What I don't get is if my parents are fine with it who are they to tell me what to do? I don't go around telling them to take their asses out of Medieval times"

Sharmila sat back and watched a young couple get into a nearby car and the boy handed the girl a single rose. They smiled, the boy started the car and they drove off. Young romance, if only she had someone to love her.

"Don't take it too hard Aradhana." Sharmila spoke gently. Her friend was always the passionate kind.

"You know what Sharmila? My maid had three live in relationships. Three! These moralistic groups say nothing to the lower classes who have different sets of morals but they are forever trying impinge their authority on us."

Sharmila looked at her watch. They had a movie to go to and began to get impatient.

"Its quite simple Aradhana. The lower classes don't care. They are thinking of survival. That's their day to day life. Love is a notion indulged by the middle class. They cannot afford it. They don't care if its Valentine's Day or Divine Day. They just want to get through the day with at least one proper meal. Now come lets meet Nikhil. We'll get late for our movie."

They walked into the mall and then into the crowded food court.

Nikhil was easy to find. A clean shaven boy in a regular t-shirt and jeans. Aradhana ran a trembling hand through her hair and Nikhil brushed his clammy hand against the side of his jeans. They both looked nervous and Sharmila grinned at their mutual discomfort. She was after all the one who pushed them towards each other. They were her best friends in college.

Nikhil gave Aradhana a shy smile and handed her a card " Happy Divine Day."

Sharmila tried to smother the laughter that bubbled in her throat. She began to cough.

Aradhana gave Nikhil a strained smile and then a dirty look to her friend.

"Open the card" Nikhil urged.

Aradhana took the card out of the envelope and found herself looking at the identical card that sat in her purse.

Disappointment hit her hard .

Aradhana tried to put up a happy face.

She grabbed Sharmila's hand and smiled up at Nikhil "Lets go for the movie."

Once they entered the theater Aradhana made Sharmila sit between them.

Sharmila joked "But people may think I am Nikhil's girlfriend. We still may get beaten up."

Both Nikhil and Aradhana glared at Sharmila and the lights went off.

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