Things That Bang

Behind the happy homosexual smiles there generally are lost humans who have risen like a phoenix in the midst of pain and wretched soul searching. The gays who stepped out of the closet and took on great risks like rejection from their own blood and death at the hands of a brutal world.

In urban India where we are always looking over our shoulder, society self destructs. Whether it be protest against caste, religious restrictions, education, or choice of sexuality, these are the boundaries that if broken incur socio-familial wrath. Yet people rebel against the supposed morals, traditions and values that have led to discord, disharmony and many a times suicide by those unable to grapple the trauma caused by outdated conservatism.

Those who stick on to archaic patriarchal practices are also inevitably homophobic in their outlook. The fact is now our fundamentalists have finally found a common cause to be united against - to beat up the faggot and the butch!! And as usual they make homosexuals the bogeymen out to prey on the children. Yes, it’s always about the children. The last desperate straw when invoking the message of a homophobic god fails- think about the children!

In this brutal environment there are few straight people who stand by gay friends and wonder how they survived the brutal Indian environment where disdain and most of the times violence was committed against them. There are very few of us who in social occasions and even in the midst of family with sure voices say that we have no problems if our children are gay.

When homosexuals rise from the ashes and reach for the rainbows, how can heterosexuals sit back and not be part of the extraordinary unfolding? The triumph of the human spirit cannot be denied.

Only when the heterosexuals stand by them shoulder to shoulder and give them the courage to come out of the closet will they breathe easier in a country which they call their own and yet live in fear or suffer loneliness. When we are willing to take a brick meant for them will the country change.

This isn’t a fight against the morals or values of the country. Gays love and live like us. They dream of happily ever afters; they dream of acceptance from family, sincere friendships, of having their own families, or simply the desire to be treated as human without being judged.

Today, I am proud of being from Delhi - the capital of India where to love under the rainbow is perfectly legal.